Learning to Love Means Learning to Be Together

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When I quit social media, I told myself I was done with the noise. I’d write, teach, and let the ideas speak for themselves. No algorithms, no performance, no hollow engagement loops. Just truth, offered openly.

A hundred subscribers later, I’m learning I got something wrong.

Not about social media — I don’t miss it — but about what it means to share something true. I assumed the work was in the writing. Craft the idea clearly enough, ground it in Scripture and experience, and something real would happen. And something has. People in this community support each other in ways I haven’t seen anywhere else. And you’ve supported me in ways I never expected.

But that’s not a Substack insight, that’s a gospel insight. You can’t actually learn to love alone. Love is practiced in proximity, in friction, in showing up for someone else’s wrestling as well as your own. The pattern I keep writing about — it doesn’t complete in isolation, it completes in community.

So Learning to Love is going to look a little different.

I’m opening a subscriber chat — not another place to perform or consume, but a place to actually be together. Regular conversations around transformation, work, prayer, and each other’s projects. A place to bring the questions that don’t fit in a comment section, to share what’s changing in your life, to ask for prayer, to celebrate what God is doing. If you’re working on something — writing, a business, a ministry, anything — this is a place to share it and find people who will actually show up for it.

I also want to know who you are. If you’re new here, introduce yourself. Where are you coming from? What brought you here? Community doesn’t happen through content alone. It happens through people knowing they’re seen.

This is still early. I’m not launching a program but opening a door. What grows behind it depends on who walks through and what they bring. I’ve learned enough about love this past year to know that keeping it to myself was never the point.

A hundred of you are here. That’s not nothing.

Let’s actually be here, learning to love, together.